Keke Palmer on May 1, 2023.Photo:Arturo Holmes/MG23/Getty Images for The Met Museum/Vogue

Keke Palmer attends The 2023 Met Gala Celebrating “Karl Lagerfeld: A Line Of Beauty”

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Keke Palmeris sharing what she’s learned about unhealthy relationships.

“I actually remember, Dr. Drew, the moment that it happened,” Palmer said of how early fame affected her. “No one could relate to me — not my siblings, not even my parents. Anytime a dynamic is shifted like that it can get highly toxic, because no one knows how to deal with the trauma of being a celebrity, or having a celebrity child.”

“My parents did great, and I said this in my book: I can judge all day and night, but I’m pretty good,” she added. “I could have been worse off. But the reality is, I remember at that time, as a child, when I did not have the awareness and the understanding and words and the knowledge that I have now, I just said ‘I’m never coming out again.’ "

Keke Palmer on May 10, 2023.Rebecca Sapp/Getty

Keke Palmer attends Boss Featuring Keke Palmer terrace after party at The GRAMMY Museum on May 10, 2023 in Los Angeles, California.

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“And at that point, it was just like, I choose happiness and I choose joy, and I don’t choose to go back there,” she added of how she approached the more uncomfortable aspects of fame. “And like you said, as time goes on, I’m like, I’m good, whatever that was, I’m good.”

Palmer also alluded to a situation she experienced later in life where she felt someone could not relate to her experience.

“But then I reach that reenactment, and the reenactment is, here it is again, someone doesn’t see me,” she said. “I put myself in an intimate scenario with someone where they don’t see me…. They didn’t see me.”

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The release of Palmer’s new podcast episode — which was recorded last week and is titled “How to Deal with Abusive Relationships, Boundaries and Narcissism” — comes about three weeks after she wasgranted temporary sole custodyof her8-month-old son, whom she shares with ex-boyfriendDarius Jackson.

(L-R) Keke Palmer, Leo Jackson and Darius Jackson on April 29, 2023.Derek White/WireImage

Keke Palmer, Leo Jackson, and Darius Jackson attend the “Big Boss” Closing Night Screening during the 2023 Atlanta Film Festival

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A hearing is set for Dec. 5 to determine further action on the arrangement; in the meantime, the temporary restraining order says Jackson must stay at least 100 yards away from both Palmer and their son, as well as any childcare or schooling established for the infant.

source: people.com